I know that I haven’t written anything for a while, but I have been pretty damn busy with life. Sam and I are getting married in 45 days (not that we’re counting or anything) and i’m working on not morphing into a bridezilla! Alongside all of this we have been slowly chipping away at the IVF process and are finally in a place where things are starting to happen. I say finally like this has been going on a while – it’s only been a few months, but we are both very eager to get started…and very anxious.
My head seems to be all over the place right now, I cannot wait to get married and start IVF, but planning it all simultaneously is a tad overwhelming. I wouldn’t change anything for the world though. Let me fill you in on all of the happenings since our appointment at Care.
After our information session, we were sent out all the information about me becoming an egg donor – a process that not only helps infertile couples, but also reduces the cost of our IVF treatment. We both are so grateful that we have the opportunity to use donated sperm to try and conceive a child, so it seems only right that we return the favour.
It’s also been fascinating learning all about how egg and sperm donation is no longer anonymous. And any child that is brought into the world using my eggs will be able to contact me once they are 18. When we fill in all the forms we will be given the option to know whether any children have been conceived using my eggs, and i’m currently torn about whether I would want to know – but I guess there’s still time to think it over. I also love the idea that you can leave a letter or note of some sort, should my eggs create a child, which they can read at 16 and it’s nice to know that if we do have a child, they will have the option to learn a little about their father too.
The donation forms included paperwork to fill in all about my health and fitness, as well as an investigation into my family’s health. To complete this I had to find out the medical history of my dad and my mum and then both of their parents – including their age, any medical issues they had and if they had passed away, their age and cause of death. All rather morbid stuff, but that’s all filled in and fingers crossed everything is going well so far.
A week or so after I received a phone-call inviting Sam and I to an appointment with the donation team. During this appointment I will meeting the donation nurse to fill in legal parenthood consent forms, discuss donor sperm and egg donor protocol and fill in welfare of the child forms.
followed by a trans-vaginal ultrasound (daunting) to assess my pelvic anatomy, this will also include an antral follicle count of my ovaries – it’s all technical stuff! After this I will have blood tests and I guess, await the results.
All of the information we have received has been incredibly useful – and we both feel a lot more in the know about IVF, sperm and follicles. I know that Sam was feeling particularly anxious about her relationship to our (potential) baby. And it’s been relieving to know that, as we will be married when we begin the whole process, Sam will legally be the child’s parent and her name can go on the birth certificate. It’s so amazing that non-conventional families can now be accepted to a degree, as we both have so much love to give.
My appointment is in about three weeks. So i’ll keep you posted!